What’s the Fundamental Factor?

Tips from Testimony: Transcend Your Personal Boundaries ©

You've done your assignments. You know your purpose. You believe in your abilities, and understand the motivation for transcending your personal boundaries. Even so, you may feel that your self-development has plateaued ... you're stuck at the question, “Now What?”  Many times, after learning new things you may still simply feel a sense of discontent—that no matter how much you prepare, your return for investing your time isn’t leveling up. There is a fundamental factor that will cause you to be fruitful in all areas of your life:  Building Relationships.

On Day Six, I recommend seven great ideas for setting in motion your transformation:

1.   Turn Off the Television and Pick Up the Phone

The next time you get ready to pick up the remote, I want you to stop—turn off the television—and pick up the telephone. Instead of posting updates about every scene of the movie you’re watching or about the foolishness on the reality show, pick up the phone and call your next potential  business partner, employee, board member, benefactor,  best friend,  potential husband or wife. It is more rewarding and has lasting positive effects on your life than watching the Idiot Box.

2.   Join a New Networking Group

Running out of opportunities, social activities, or new people to talk with about your dream, your product or service, or organization? Join a new networking group, but one that is not online.  It could be a local chamber of commerce, sorority or fraternity, the Kiwanis club, your college alumni group, a national association, a business or church group. ... Whatever it is, join now and start going to meetings, and seminars to connect with a more diverse group. You just might meet your future spouse.

3.   Jump on Social Networks with a Transformed Life

Now, I didn’t say jump on the computer to send an email, which is the new snail mail. To cultivate quality and professional relationships use that Twitter account, LinkedIn group, or Facebook professional page with a renewed vigor. Create a productive exchange with thought leaders, innovators, pastors, politicians, professors, and plain ole good folk, but new folk. I know at first, when you started the accounts, you had the best of intentions, but as time went on, your interest may have waned, you got sucked in the drama, or simply stopped participating in a productive way. Now is the time to reconnect! Your children may not like it, but keep a watchful eye on the youth.

4.   Listen to the Tried and True

When the last time you asked for —and listened to—in person, new ideas and honest critique from those you trust?  Not those ‘yes people’ you hang with. They have good intentions because they want you to be happy but at the cost not being challenged.  Who in your circle has godly wisdom? Ask: What should I try differently? Who should I talk to that I hadn't?  Ask them for referrals, prayer or simply their presence. But before he or she leaves, please ask, “What can I do for you?”

5.   Take Your Five Least Favorite Friends Out to Lunch

Everyone takes their best friends or buddies out to lunches—and you should, too—but have you thought about taking your five least favorite friends out to lunch? Remembering we are #MakingTheShift. You know that friend who calls or text you two or three times a day about nothing but is an excellent networker with a lot of connections. Or the friend who brags about his team just a little too much, in season and out of season, but is a successful Christian entrepreneur. Or the friend who is always complaining about something but is a social media guru with knowledge. Call 'em up, take 'em out to lunch, and see what motivates them on a professional level.  Maybe they could offer more than expected? Maybe they will just be shocked that you called! End result = new ideas and deeper connection. They’re your friends after all!

6.   Present One New Initiative

Step outside the box to launch a new initiative. Do a new thing!  How many ways have you shown your spouses’ appreciation? Tell them in a just because, hand-written letter!  Don't know about any new networking groups? Get an inter-faith group started! Men, start a Male Mentor Program! Talked about taking a Spanish course, but never looked into it? Now is the time to do it!

7.   Volunteer

Nothing is more revitalizing, or leads to more insights, then spending a day serving. Support a fundraising for a school; spend a day helping tutor kid; coach a youth sport; serve meals and cleaning up at a homeless shelter. Get reconnected with the mission of the church and get renewed.

Building productive and purposefully relationships is the fundamental factor in experiencing success in all areas of your life. Start building today.

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From presentation "7 Days of Preparation: Launch the Transformation!" ©  

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